FRAMINGHAM – Carolyn Elizabeth (Fish) Lubker, of Framingham, formerly of Wellesley, born February 9, 1923, and passed away at age 98 February 21, 2021 at Newton Wellesley Hospital.
Beloved wife of the late Robert Henry Lubker, who predeceased her November 24, 2008 after 65 years of marriage. Carolyn was the only child of Thomas Frederick (Fred) Fish and Helen Owen (Moore) Fish of Providence, Rhode Island. Both of her parents predeceased her in 1993.
Carolyn is survived by her children, Jay Frederick Lubker, Thomas Owen Lubker, and Robert Henry Lubker all living in Framingham. She owned a home in S. Dennis, MA after leaving Wellesley in 2008. She is survived by one grandchild, Scott Owen Lubker, of Wellesley. She had a sister-in-law, Jeanne Conour, of Fredericksburg, VA. She had many cousins, including Joan Davidson, Beverly Broski, Frederick C. Moore, Paul F. Moore, Roger E. Moore, Marjorie Pratt, Richard & Robert Scarborough, Elizabeth Boomer, Edward J. Moore, Mark E. Moore, and Roxana Owen Moore.
Carolyn was an alumna of the Lincoln School (Friends Private School) Providence, RI. Carolyn also had been a member of the Church of the Redeemer (Episcopal) Providence, RI and Saint Andrew’s Episcopal Church, Wellesley.
Carolyn lifelong passion was her family research, which began when she was a teenager listening to her beloved Grandmother Nellie Roxana (Owen) Moore whose ancestral lines went back to the 1600s in MA and RI. Her grandmother’s stories led her to the Rhode Island Historical Society where she began to learn genealogy with a fan shaped chart, and how to develop a family tree. Her research led to her to find ancestors who she found to be very interesting and prominent early settlers of America. People whom she met while doing her research told her she could join hereditary societies.
In time she became a member of many hereditary societies, among them, the National Society Daughters of the American Revolution, which she served as Massachusetts State Regent 1983-1986; Honorary State Regent (MDAR); the Women Descendants of the Ancient & Honorable Artillery Co.; National Society U. S. Daughters of 1812; New England Women; National Society Daughters (NSDAC) of the American Colonists; First Families of Rhode Island & Providence Plantations; Roger Williams Family Association; National Society Descendants of Colonial Clergy, which she served as Governor General 1987-1990; National Society Dames of the Court of Honor; National Society Daughters of Colonial Wars; National Society Colonial Governors; National Society Colonial Dames of the XVII Century; Continental Society Daughters of Indian Wars; National Society of Old Plymouth Colony Descendants; Flagon & Trencher (Colonial Innkeepers); National Gavel Society; Sioux Valley Genealogical Society; Numedalslågen Lag of America; and the New England Historic & Genealogical Society, Boston.
Carolyn enjoyed the many friends she made in the various organizations. Her husband was a great cheerleader urging her to accept the offers she received to fill various positions. He enjoyed attending some banquets when men were invited, especially at the state meetings of the DAR. As a young school girl she was bullied by schoolmates but she persevered to become a confident public speaker. Her husband was a descendant of Norwegian and German immigrants who came to the Midwest in the 1850s and 1860s and he gained an interest in these ancestors. Carolyn and Bob travelled many miles through Wisconsin, Minnesota, South Dakota, and Nebraska during the last 15 years of his life. They happily looked at records in churches, homestead papers, cemeteries, and spoke with relatives who may have remembered some missing information. They met many of his known and newly discovered relatives.
Those were happy retirement years. They also enjoyed a trip to England and France in 1994 for the 50th anniversary of D-Day and Bob enjoyed showing Carolyn where he had been stationed as a Navy Seabee, in Scotland, England, and France during World War II. Part of their trip included Utah Beach, Normandy, France where Bob had landed on D-Day June 1944. Carolyn & Bob also enjoyed a cruise to Bermuda. They both enjoyed many vacations to timeshares owned by their son Jay including stays in Newport, RI, the Berkshires, the Maine coast, on Cape Cod, and VA. Carolyn and her sons had at least 4 memorable vacations on Hilton Head, SC in the last ten years of her life.
Carolyn enjoyed reading, especially mysteries, travel, and in earlier years, candlepin bowling, and playing bridge. By 1996 she started using computers and going online for ancestry research. While Carolyn’s family was young she did what women used to do: stay home, cook, and be there for her children. She never regretted it. Those were happy years, in quite a different category. Looking back over her life Carolyn was glad that she had wonderful parents, a wonderful husband, and strong, healthy, wonderful, children. Later an extra blessing: a grandson Scott Owen Lubker, his wife Elizabeth, followed by a great granddaughter Grace, and a great grandson Maxwell Lubker, and Scott’s step daughter Emma.
The last couple years she was slowing down but still physically independent with a sound mind but unfortunately her hearing was greatly reduced and that made her feel somewhat isolated at times. In the last month of her life a sudden illness took her life.
All three of her children thought she was amazing and that they were blessed that she was their mother. They loved having her living with them the last years of her life.
Carolyn’s visiting hours at the George F Doherty & Sons Funeral Home in Wellesley will be 4-7 p.m. Tuesday March 9, 2021.
The funeral will be held the following morning at 11 a.m. at the same location. Her burial at Acotes Hill Cemetery in Chepachet, RI will follow.
Gifts in her memory can be sent to: Hillside School Development Office, 404 Robin Hill Street Marlborough, MA 01752 or The Michael J. Fox Foundation for Parkinson’s Research P. O. Box 5014 Hagerstown, MD 21741-5014 or Lincoln School 310 Butler Ave. Providence, RI 02906.